As a friend, family member or partner, you can have an important role in supporting your loved one. You can help them learn to manage their psychosis and reduce the likelihood of them becoming unwell.
However, it can be difficult to know how best to help. Below are some suggestions that might be useful to you.
Helping with Unusual Experiences
Hearing voices is often very distressing for someone, as the voices are often critical and say unpleasant things. Some people may wish to talk about what the voices are saying, while others prefer to keep this private.
If the person wishes to speak about their voices, try to understand how they feel, even if you may not agree with their explanation of the voices. You can also try to point out the person’s good points to boost their confidence, as the voices will often try to undermine this.
It can help to distract the person by starting conversations or getting them involved in day-to-day activities. You could also ask the person what works for them as they may have found other ways to cope with the voices.
When people have unusual ideas or beliefs, it can be difficult to understand where these come from. It is often tempting to try to talk them out of their beliefs but this can sometimes lead to heated conversations.
Try to keep calm, even if the person is saying things that seem very frightening, and reassure them by showing them you understand how significant their beliefs are to them.
Helping with Problems with Motivation
Psychosis can make it hard for a person to:
- Think straight
- Keep going
- Take an interest in people
- Keep up with things they previously enjoyed.
While this can be frustrating for those trying supporting them, try not to expect the person to do too much too soon. It is important to strike the balance between gentle encouragement and making allowances for their difficulties. Offer praise for any achievement, however small, and try to find enjoyable or practical things to do together.
What Else Can Help?
Help the person to regain their confidence by encouraging them to do things on their own.
As it can be hard for the person to realise that others in the family may also need support or help, give clear, calm messages about what you would like to happen.
Stick to an everyday routine with regular mealtimes and chores.
Like everyone, the person may need their own time and space, so try to respect this without worrying too much.
As the person can sometimes seem distant or unemotional, show support and acceptance by continuing to spend time with them and involving them in everyday things.
Getting help
Someone who is experiencing a psychotic episode might not be aware of the changes in their thinking and behaviour. It might often fall to friends or family member to support individuals in accessing help. If someone you know needs help urgently, you have two options:
- Make an urgent appointment with their GP
- Call NHS 24 by dialling 111
How services can help family and friends to support people
Many families find it helpful to meet with a professional who is trained in helping families. The aims of these meetings could include: developing a shared understanding of what is happening, improving family relationships, and finding ways to solve problems together. Guidelines recommend that everyone diagnosed with psychosis can access family interventions. These should be available in your area if you live in Greater Glasgow and Clyde.
Even if the person does not want personal information shared with relatives, services can give you general information about the problems people experience, what can help, and what support is available.
While it is important for staff to keep information about the person’s care private, sometimes the people who live with the person or know them well may have ideas or information, which can help in their care. It is fine to pass this information on to staff if you think it might help.
Look After Yourself
Seeing someone you care about experiencing psychosis can be distressing and confusing. It is important to take care of yourself.
It can be difficult to support your relative and look after yourself at the same time. However, it is very important to make time for yourself to ensure that you do not become overwhelmed by what is happening to the person you care about.
This might mean taking time out for yourself and doing the things that are important to you, like seeing friends or keeping up with your interests. Keeping to the same routines in your day-to-day life can also reduce tension at home.
You may also find speaking to others in a similar situation useful.
Below are some resources you may find helpful:
Further information for carers is available on the NHS Greater Glasgow and Clyde carers site